Break-ups are a real fricking pain in the ass. Firstly, thanks to every rom-com ever, you feel obliged to mope around wearing pyjamas eating ice-cream from the tub, even if you prefer French knickers and Jaffa Cakes.
Then, you have to deal with the people who insist on telling you there are plenty of fish in the sea - when you know there's just ONE fish out there for you, and he's chosen to spend his future sitting on his own playing X Box over shopping in Ikea with you. SO WRONG.
Then, of course, there's the whole 'total, soul-shattering despair' thing to deal with. Yawn, right? And now, to add insult to agonising injury, science has proved that yes, you're feeling it worse than him right now.
Your friends might tell you that while he seems fine, he's actually manfully disguising a shattered heart - but new research from experts in the US have found that after being dumped, women really do feel more pain than men. SO UNFAIR.
But wait - there's some good news, too. Because while you're likely to feel that split more deeply than him, you won't feel it for as long. When a relationship ends, women often feel they have more lose from having to start over (especially if they're at that OMG-I-can-totally-see-him-teaching-our-kid-football stage).
But because we tend to be more open with our feelings, asking friends and family for support, we eventually achieve that magical word: closure.
Meanwhile, thanks to their propensity to bottle things up, men are left feeling resentful after a break-up for ages, 'making peace' with the situation but never fully moving on. Describing the male reaction as 'self destructive,' Professor Craig Morris, who conducted the study, says that although he might seem OK - even starting a new relationship - he might not be fully over you.
So next time you're poring over his Facebook asking yourself why he looks so damn happy, don't panic. Chances are, he's not. Lol.
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