In July, NFL quarterback Russell Wilson said in an interview that he had not had sex with girlfriend Ciara in the three months they'd been dating. "If you can love somebody without [sex]," Wilson said, "then you can really love somebody." The interview sparked a new conversation about abstinence: Can quitting sex be good for a relationship even if you're not virgins? It's one thing to swear off chocolate pudding if you've never had it. It's a lot harder to try chocolate pudding and then say, "You know what? This is great, but I'm going to keep this out of my life." Curious if abstinence could still enhance a relationship if you've (1) already had sex together and (2) are married, I crazily committed my wife and myself to swearing off sex for two weeks to see what would unfold.
It didn't sound so bad in theory. Two weeks isn't crazy-long. When you're married and working full-time, it's not uncommon to come home, shove some food in your mouth, and pass out with a quick peck on the lips; you don't feel obligated to have sex after every night out like when you were dating. I figured the first week would go by quickly and week two would be a slog but we'd get through it.
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